Those are phrases from emails I have sent this week. Despite being out of context, those phrases appear innocuous. But they aren’t. They are me undermining myself. Read this article about how women undermine themselves with words and then read those phrases again. Do you see it?
Do you do it?
Stop right now and check. Open up your email. Type “just” in the search box of your sent emails. How many “just” emails pop up? Do they fit within the parameters of this article? Are you guilty? I am! And this isn’t even the first time I have been introduced to this speech habit.
Let me try this again:
“I just wanted to check…” “Where are you with the…”
“I mean, I just think that if we…” “I think…”
“Does that make sense?” “I am interested to hear your thoughts”
“Maybe I wasn’t clear” “The instructions were communicated. I will find out why the outcomes weren’t met”
“I was just trying to get an understanding of how…” “I would like to know”
“Sorry about that…” is totally deleted from the email
Your turn! How can you change your speech?
Remember, there is no need to apologize for taking up space.